Domestic violence is an important issue and an unwarranted condition faced by many. Wisconsin recently released its 2016 Wisconsin Domestic Violence Homicide Report — and the statistics are “extremely troubling.”
There were 73 domestic violence-related deaths last year — 57 victims, 14 perpetrators who then committed suicide, and two perpetrators killed by responding law enforcement.
Among the victims, seven were under the age of 17.
“Every five days in Wisconsin a person dies due to domestic violence. This report underscores the fact that domestic violence has become a public health crisis in Wisconsin and it should serve as a haunting reminder to lawmakers that deaths at the hands of domestic violence are absolutely preventable.”
In efforts to increase awareness, book author LaVerne Badger and fashion model Natalie Hayden have collaborated on a web series called, EXPOSED. The web series will be airing on Facebook Live this fall. These two remarkable women have joined forces as advocates to address the core issues leading up to [relationship-conflict] with no resolution spurting into “Domestic Violence.”
Their primary goal is centered around EXPOSING the root of the problem- to kill the cancer taking the lives of those exposed.
Domestic violence is the use of a pattern of abuse to maintain power and control in a familiar relationship. Abuse affects all populations, regardless of their age, race, sex, nationality, religion, ability, socioeconomic status, gender identity, or sexual orientation.
Abusive behaviors may include:
- Physical Abuse: Use of physical force in a way that injures or puts others at risk of injury
- Emotional Abuse: Use of words, tone, actions, or lack of action meant to control, hurt, or demean
- Sexual Abuse: Forced or coerced sexual act or behavior motivated to acquire power and control
- Financial Abuse: Use or misuse of financial or monetary resources of the partner or of the partnership without the partner’s freely given consent
- Spiritual Abuse: Using victim’s religious or spiritual beliefs to manipulate
- Identity Abuse: Using personal characteristics to demean, manipulate, and control partner; comprised of “isms” around race, gender, sex, age, sexual orientation, etc.
Why don’t victims leave?
The decision to leave an abusive relationship is difficult, and a victim’s reasons for staying may be numerous, including:
- Fear of physical harm, retaliation, dealing with the legal system, or changing their situation
- Love for their significant other
- Lack of resources (housing, money, accessible programs)
- Isolation from supportive friends and family members
- Familial pressure
- Normalization of violence in the relationship
- A sense of guilt or responsibility for the abuse
- A desire to help their abuser
- Potential public shaming or humiliation
- Optimism that things will change
- Religious belief and values
How can I help a loved one?
You can take steps to help someone you care about. Click here for tips on how to help a loved one.
The Office of Violence Prevention has an online directory of agencies and organizations who support those affected by domestic violence and sexual assault. The Commission on Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault also publishes materials to help community members locate resources.
Our “You Are Not Alone” brochure is available for download in English, Spanish, and large print. It lists the names and phone numbers of organizations that can help if you or someone you know has experienced family violence.
- You Are Not Alone
- No Está Sola (Español)
- You Are Not Alone (Large Print)
- No Está Sola (Español, Letra Grande)
Our safety planning cards, “You Have a Right to be Safe,” are also available for download in English, Spanish, and Hmong. These cards assist survivors in developing a comprehensive plan, as they are planning to leave an abusive relationship.