The last two weeks have been a trying time for me. Following the death of George Floyd, I was numb for days. I could not feel yet I was upset. About a week later, the dam completely burst for me. It led to a pouring out of emotions mixed with truth in several areas of my life. The fact is I had to rethink my approach to established relationships and connections. I am aware of my blackness daily yet my blackness became more tender and palpable than I have ever felt it before.
“Radical self-care” was a term that I had only heard just weeks before and, now, I know why. I would have to apply it for myself. It was a GirlTrek interview with Angela Davis and Nikki Giovanni and T. Morgan Dixon asked Angela Davis about the practice of radical self-care. I researched this expression and found that Audre Lorde coined this phrase. Here is the full quote:
“Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare.”
I thought this message hit home when I found it but, after the events, on May 25, there was a whole new meaning for me. I am black. I am a woman. The intersection of these two identities hit home too. (Check out my podcast episode on intersectionality.) Knowing that, inherently, there is a double bias, how do I take care of myself? I still have to show up as a Life Coach, a support to others. I still have to make positive impact in the lives of others, how do I do this? The answer is to implement this practice of self care on a radical level.
I am working this out daily but here is what I have thus far…
So, in this time of great shifting for many of us, Black Leading Ladies, how will you practice “Radical Self-Care”?
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