(TMZ) The remaining 3 ex-officers in the brutal killing of George Floyd are being charged with crimes in connection with his death and an announcement is expected anytime now.Facebook/ Darnella Frazier/Dragon Wok
The Minnesota Attorney General who took over the case last week will make the announcement shortly. The three other ex-officers involved are Tou Thao, Thomas Lane and J. Alexander Kueng.
In an additional video leaked from the scene, you can clearly see it was more than just Derek Chauvin kneeling on Floyd’s body … with 3 ex-officers total on him at one time.
Floyd’s family was informed by authorities charges were coming, according to the family’s attorney Ben Crump. He was on ‘TODAY’ Tuesday morning and said, “We heard that they expect to charge those officers.”
As you know, the officer whose knee ended Floyd’s life, Derek Chauvin, has been charged with 3rd-degree murder and manslaughter.
The independent autopsy at the behest of Floyd’s family revealed he died from asphyxia as a result of neck and back compression.
Those are among the many questions parents are asking after the recent deaths of George Floyd, Ahmaud Arbery and Breonna Taylor. Many white parents wonder whether to talk with their kids at all, while parents of color swallow their grief and fear to have “the talk” once again.
These deaths are part of a more complex story, one some parents have been telling for generations, and others have long felt they’ve had the luxury to ignore. But experts in child psychology and race-based stress say these conversations are essential for all parents to have, and they underscore that there are developmentally appropriate ways to talk to children of all ages about racism and police brutality.
“Silence will not protect you or them,” said Beverly Daniel Tatum, a psychologist and author of, Why Are All The Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria? And Other Conversations About Race. “Avoiding the topic is not a solution.”
Racism persists, experts say, because many parents avoid difficult conversations.
“One of the most important things to remember is that you may not have all the answers and that is OK,” said Erlanger Turner, a clinical psychologist and assistant professor of psychology at Pepperdine University who studies mental health among racial communities.
USA TODAY spoke with Tatum and Turner about how to talk with children about racial violence:
Why is it important to talk with children about what happened to George Floyd and other incidents of police brutality or racism in the news?
Beverly Daniel Tatum: Even young children may see or hear about highly publicized incidents like the George Floyd case – perhaps overhearing the TV or the radio – and may ask questions. Or if parents are upset by the news, the child may perceive the parent’s distress and ask why mom or dad is upset. In either case, an age-appropriate explanation is better than silence. Older children with Internet access may see online images on their own. Initiating an age-appropriate conversation can give children a helpful frame for understanding difficult realities. If parents are silent, children will draw their own often faulty conclusions about what is happening and why.
Erlanger Turner: Many adults are hurt and angered by these events and their children may notice changes in their mood. It is helpful to have a healthy conversation around what happened and also talk about ways to cope when you witness social injustice.
Does COVID-19 warrant avoiding these conversations, given many children are already struggling with fear, anxiety and uncertainty?
BDT: No. Not talking about upsetting events only fuels fear, anxiety and uncertainty. Being able to talk about something with a supportive adult can reduce fear, anxiety and uncertainty. Parents may avoid the conversation because they don’t know what to say, but it is a mistake to think that their silence is helpful.Get the Coronavirus Watch newsletter in your inbox.
ET: I don’t think that anxiety and fear about COVID-19 should stop a parent from talking about police brutality. This issue has been increasing in concern over the last few years as the number of black and brown people killed by police continue to rise. I think if you do talk with your child don’t leave them in a high state of worry. Make sure to end the conversation by engaging in a pleasant activity after the difficult discussion so they won’t stay worried or afraid.
How do parents start these conversations and how does that change depending on the age of their children?
ET: I think the first place to start a conversation around racism and police brutality is with honesty. Take ownership of your feelings and be comfortable sharing those feelings with your child. Then you can begin to allow them to share what they may already know about racial differences. I think that it is always good to allow children to share their opinion and understanding before you offer information.
For younger children conversations about racism should be limited to basic facts about how people are treated differently due to the color of their skin but also acknowledge that not everyone treats people differently based on race. For older teens, parents can consider exposure to news or social media posts as discussion points about this issue.
BDT: Regardless of the age of the child, it is important to balance acknowledging the reality of racism, or unfairness, with messages about the possibility of change, and the community of allies who are working together to make things better.
If a child of color asks if a police officer is going to kill them, what do you say?
BDT: The answer will depend on the age of the child. If it is a young child, a parent can be reassuring. “No, honey, you don’t have to worry about that. Police officers don’t want to hurt you.”
In response to an older child, it can be reassuring to say something like: “I know that it is scary to think that something like that might happen, and I really don’t want you to worry about anything like that. I know that most police officers want to help people, and most police officers never fire their guns. But sometimes they do get nervous and make mistakes. So it is important for you to know what to do if a police officer ever stops you…”
Black parents often refer to this as “the talk” they have to have with their adolescent sons to increase the odds they will survive an encounter with a police officer if and when they are stopped.
ET: That is a tough question. Depending on the age of the child, they may have some awareness of youth that have been killed by police. Obviously you don’t want to respond in a way that is going to make children be more fearful for their safety. In my opinion, I think that you should let children know that most police officers work to protect them and their community.
If a child says they are afraid or angry, what do you say?
BDT: Acknowledge the child’s feelings. The parent may have similar feelings. “I know it’s upsetting to hear about and see these things happening. It upsets me too when bad things like this happen. Racism is very unfair. But it makes me feel better to know there are lots of people who want to change things.” Being able to offer specific examples of community change agents would be useful. Being able to talk about what family members are doing to speak up against unfairness is especially useful. Actions always speak louder than words.
ET: If a child tells you that they are angry, that is appropriate. Don’t force them to hide their emotional expression. However, be sure to help them identify ways to express their anger in a healthy manner which may include journaling or exercising to release the energy from their body.
If a child is afraid for one of their friends, what do you say?
BDT: “I can see that you are worried about your friend. What do you think we could do that might help him or her?” Depending on the situation, this could be an opportunity to talk about what it means to be an ally, and how to stand in solidarity with another person.
ET: If a child is afraid for one of their friends, talk with them about those emotions. Allow the child to express why they may be afraid and help them identify how they can check on their friend’s safety to ease their anxiety or fear. Part of what increases anxiety is the fear of the unknown. If you have a plan of action it will reduce some of those fears.
How can parents talk about law enforcement in a way that is honest but also doesn’t discourage children from seeking help from law enforcement when appropriate?
BDT: Most police officers become police officers because they want to help people. And there are times when we would really want a police officer to help us – give some examples – if there’s been a car accident, or if someone took something that belonged to us, etc. But sometimes a police officer does something bad, like today. When that happens, we might start to think that all police officers are like that. But it’s important to remember that that is not true.
ET: I think that it is very important to talk with the children about law enforcement. For example, you can talk with them about how they protect rules in society such as making sure that people don’t drive too fast so they won’t harm themselves or others. Providing clear examples about the ways that law enforcement helps society will allow the child to better understand. You can also be honest about situations such as police brutality and let children know that some police officers break laws. If you have a trusted officer in your community it may be good to also allow the child to talk with them in person to reduce their fear.
Should these conversations be different depending on the race of the child?
BDT: Children of color are likely to experience racist encounters as they get older. They need to be helped to understand their own worth and feel affirmed in their identity as young people of color despite the negative messages they may get from others. Parents of color want to raise self-confident and empowered children who are not demoralized by other people’s racism. This requires lots of conversation about racism and how to resist it in an ongoing way throughout their children’s lives.
White children are often racially isolated as a consequence of segregated schools and neighborhoods, and consequently limited in their understanding of people different from themselves. White parents who want to interrupt the cycle of racism must learn to talk to their children about it and model their own anti-racist activity.
ET: According to research, white parents often don’t talk with their children about race or may emphasize “not seeing color.” The concept of colorblindness or “not seeing color” is more harmful than helpful and does not honor an individual’s identity. … For white families, research suggests … conversations should focus on raising anti-racist children and encouraging more friendships with children from others races.
Many of these deaths garner attention because footage of it goes viral. What should we say if our child asks to see it?
BDT: There are many adults who don’t want to see such footage. I would not show it to a child at all. Once an image is in your head, it is very difficult to get it out. That said, it is reasonable to describe what happened and talk about why it was wrong. It is also likely that children with Internet access can view the footage without an adult’s permission or assistance. Talking about it after the fact will help children process their feelings.
ET: You should not show your children these videos as it may increase the likelihood of them experiencing symptoms of trauma or having nightmares. What we know from research on witnessing disasters is that individuals may be at a higher risk of developing post-traumatic stress disorder even through indirect exposure to these events.
What do we say if, in the course of this conversation, a child says something racist?
BDT: Inquire about it with curiosity, not judgment. “I’m wondering why you said that…” After hearing more about what the child is thinking, you can offer correction by providing new information. “You know, a lot of people might think that is true, but I don’t because….”
ET: I think the first thing to do is to not get defensive. You want to foster open communication with your child. However, I think you should explore why they have that opinion, where did they learn it from, and tell them why what they said was wrong. It might be helpful for you as a parent to think about ways that you may have unconsciously expressed racist attitudes.
How can parents explain the uprisings in a way that doesn’t condone violence but also doesn’t minimize the sense of injustice fueling them?
BDT: Children understand the concept of unfairness as well as the experience of frustration. Years and years of unfairness – racism – results in intense anger and frustration. The conversation can then be about what we must do to fix the continuing unfairness.
ET: I think it is important for parents to be honest. Share your hurt, anger, or disappointment with your child. You should also talk about different ways to protest social injustice such as calling your local politicians office or even visit their office to talk with them about policy change to reduce injustice.
BY JOSE ARREDONDO SAN ANTONIO PUBLISHED 6:30 PM CT MAY. 29, 2020 UPDATED 6:44 AM CT MAY. 30, 2020
SAN ANTONIO — It wasn’t a regular trip to the grocery store for Kimiya Denise. The items she purchased will be for a peaceful rally organized by Denise and other black activists to mourn the death of George Floyd.
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Organizer Kimiya Denise spent Friday preparing for George Floyd protest event Floyd died in Minneapolis police custody on Monday, sparking outrage Denise says protest will be peaceful and focused on mourning Floyd
“We do need to stand in solidarity as a community and we need to make sure the black community is liberated and comforted at a time like this,” Denise says.
Police brutality is an issue Denise and many others across America know all too well.
“But seeing this just become a reoccurring thing is haunting for me as a black woman in America,” Denise says. “And I’ve been mourning this man’s death and I’ve been mourning the deaths of those before him.”
Kimiya Denise gathers supplies for a rally protesting the death of George Floyd in this image from May 29, 2020. (Jose Arredondo/Spectrum News)
Denise and her friends pushed around two carts, collecting items for Saturday’s rally.
“Basically we are buying these things not because we want to have to use them but we are buying because it’s going to be hot,” Denise says. “We are going to be walking. We are going to be standing and want the community to have the necessities it might need.”
It was all purchased with the aid of donations made by San Antonians supporting Denise’s protest.
“Thank you, San Antonio – $365 so far in donations,” Denise said.
Denise believes rallies can shine a light on issues, but also be a form of therapy.
“A voice that felt like it wasn’t heard, it was one,” Denise says. “And just making that one change, making that one difference goes a long way.”
That impact is more than enough for Denise to keep going.
“I’m happy that I’m alive to fight this fight,” Denise says. “To fight the fight my ancestors fought and to continue that fight.”
Hundreds are expected to attend this rally of mourning, but Denise says she will make sure everyone takes precaution during these times of the pandemic.
“It’s really cool that we can come together, especially during COVID-19 when everybody has little to no resources,” Denise says. “So I’m happy. I’m very excited to see what tomorrow brings.”
Kimiya Denise gathers supplies ahead of a San Antonio protest event in this image from May 29, 2020. (Jose Arredondo/Spectrum News)
On Monday at 8 p.m., Minneapolis police said officers were called to the intersection of Chicago Avenue and East 38th Street on a report of someone trying to use a forged document at Cup Foods.
Police initially said Floyd was resisting arrest and had a medical incident. However, video obtained by CBS News shows Floyd cooperating with officers, at least in the initial moments of the encounter.
A bystander’s video showed Floyd pleading that he could not breathe as a white officer — identified as Chauvin — knelt on his neck and kept his knee there for several minutes after Floyd stopped moving and became unresponsive.
The other officers involved were identified as Tou Thao, Thomas Lane and J Alexander Kueng, both with the department for fewer than three years. All four officers were fired a day after Floyd’s death. As of yet, none of those three have been reported as having been taken into custody.
The incident drew comparisons to the case of Eric Garner, an unarmed black man who died in 2014 in New York after being placed in a police chokehold. He also said the words “I can’t breathe” while being arrested. The phrase has become a rallying cry for protests over police brutality.
The video of Floyd’s fatal arrest circulated widely on social media, sparking protests in Minneapolis and cities across the country.
On both Tuesday and Wednesday, protests began with peaceful demonstrations near where Floyd was pinned to the ground, but violence later broke out near 3rd Precinct police stations. Wednesday evening’s protests involved more than 30 fires, destruction of businesses and looting. Protests and reports of looting continued into Thursday.
Floyd’s death is being investigated by the U.S. Attorney’s Office, FBI in Minneapolis and the Department of Justice Civil Rights division.
After serving in Haiti and hostile zone like Somalia and earning a combat patch I can tell you we were trained to handle detainees with care. What we saw with the death of George Floyd was murder. I explain in this video.
17-year-old Darnella Frazier said she is traumatized after witnessing the death of George Floyd at the hands of Minneapolis police officers.
“I seen him die,” a tearful Frazier said. “And everybody’s asking me how do I feel. I don’t know how to feel. Cuz, it’s so sad, bro.”
The young lady told her story to NowThis days after the fatal incident.
According to the teen, she was walking to the store with her cousin when she saw the interaction between Floyd and MPD. “They killed that man! And I was right there! I was like five feet away! It’s so traumatizing.”
Frazier’s mom told TMZ that her daughter is already suffering from social anxiety and has been besieged by media attention and attacks on social media.
People have even said that the teen should have done “more” to help Floyd.
She responded in a Facebook post, “I’m a minor!” Frazier wrote, “Of course I’m not about to fight a cop I’m SCARED wtf. Fighting would’ve got someone else killed or in the same position as George.”
The teen goes on to say that if it were not for her video, the police may have gotten away with killing Floyd.
“Instead of bashing me, THANK ME!” she wrote, “Because that could’ve been one of your loved ones and you would want to see the truth as well.”
Some people have put for the narrative that Frazier only posted the video for attention or money. She has vehemently denied that.
The 17-year-old should be being celebrated as a hero, instead, she is being victimized by internet trolls and critics.
Darnella Frazier captured the viral video of George Floyd being pinned to the ground by Minneapolis police officer, Derek Chauvin. She posted her video to her Facebook page and it quickly spread, bringing international attention to the tragic case. Her voice, along with other bystanders, is heard pleading with the officers to let Floyd up from the ground.
The incident and the eight-plus minute video has sparked outrage around the world.