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Monday Meditation


Vuyanzi is a Certified Life Coach, Speaker and Author. She is also the host of the Black Leading Ladies on Purpose podcast and Vuyanzi Coaches on The Coach Channel launching in July of 2020.
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How to Practice Radical Self-Care

The last two weeks have been a trying time for me. Following the death of George Floyd, I was numb for days. I could not feel yet I was upset. About a week later, the dam completely burst for me. It led to a pouring out of emotions mixed with truth in several areas of my life. The fact is I had to rethink my approach to established relationships and connections.  I am aware of my blackness daily yet my blackness became more tender and palpable than I have ever felt it before. 

“Radical self-care” was a term that I had only heard just weeks before and, now, I know why. I would have to apply it for myself.  It was a GirlTrek interview with Angela Davis and Nikki Giovanni and T. Morgan Dixon asked Angela Davis about the practice of radical self-care. I researched this expression and found that Audre Lorde coined this phrase. Here is the full quote:

“Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare.”

–Audre Lorde

I thought this message hit home when I found it but, after the events, on May 25, there was a whole new meaning for me. I am black. I am a woman. The intersection of these two identities hit home too. (Check out my podcast episode on intersectionality.)  Knowing that, inherently, there is a double bias, how do I take care of myself? I still have to show up as a Life Coach, a support to others. I still have to make positive impact in the lives of others, how do I do this? The answer is to implement this practice of self care on a radical level.  

I am working this out daily but here is what I have thus far…

  1. Speak my Truth: I did another post about this and since then I have had to up level my role as a Purveyor of Truth (Listen to my speech as a Purveyor of Truth).
  2. Commit to Your Empowerment: Figure out how you need to get your fuel at this time. Is it a 21 day meditation with a group? Possibly a book? Maybe even intentional meetings with other like minded people to build each other up.
  3. Sweat it out: The visual effects of exercise on our bodies may be obvious however the effects on the inside are that endorphins are released in your body and this makes you feel good and it also keeps you focused and alert. For me, this helps.

So, in this time of great shifting for many of us, Black Leading Ladies, how will you practice “Radical Self-Care”?

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Life Coach Vuyanzi
Life Coach Vuyanzi

Vuyanzi’s greatest teacher has been faith.  Her passion in life is to help Black Leading Ladies over 40 to discover their greatness after a shift in normalcy. Vuyanzi is a Certified Life, Career, Executive Coach. She is the host of the Black Leading Ladies on Purpose podcast. Vuyanzi is the co-author of 4 books being released this year and is working on her own for release in August.

How to celebrate LGBT Pride month at home

By: Angelica Owens

June is Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transexual Pride month! Typically, the world would be getting ready for the many Pride parades in different cities, but due to Coronavirus, they are either cancelled or postponed to a later date. However, that is no excuse to not show your pride during this month! Here are some ways to still celebrate it while being at home.

  1. Honor the LGBT who paved the way

Marsha P. Johnson and those before us have helped pave the way for many of the LGBT youth. The Stonewall riots were riots where nine police officers came into the stonewall inn, which served LGBT in Greenwich village in New York City. They arrested some employees, roughed up many of the patrons, and arrested anyone who was not wearing at least three articles of gender-appropriate clothing. It is because of them that the LGBT community can live more free today. Remembering their legacy and their impact is important.

2. Decorate your house in rainbows

The rainbow is the color of the gay flag so just decorating your house with rainbows will make you feel as though you are still celebrating your pride throughout this month. The more color, the more vibrant your month will be!

3. Dress up in your favorite pride apparel 

Since there will not be a physical pride parade this month, the best thing you can do is still dress up in your favorite pride apparel. Bring out the rainbow flags, the rainbow stickers, girl on girl shirts or shorts. Everything pride related this month! This month is about being proud of you are, so do just that.

4. Share coming out stories  

Coming out is just the beginning of your Journey. Everyone’s experience with this is not bad, but if it is, talking about how you overcame challenges to get to where you are now, is very important. Sharing stories can help people see how they grew in a positive way since they came out. Coming out stories can help you learn more about everyone’s journey to acceptance and self love which is what we want to see.

5. Watch a LGBT movie 

Whether it’s “moonlight”, “Blue is the warmest color”, or “Simon”, find a good movie either focused around LGBT people or that has at least one LGBT person in it. Watching a positive movie centered around the community can help you live out your life even more proud which is what this month is all about. Being unapologetically yourself all year long, but a little extra this month.

MUA’s using their platform for BLM

By: Angelica Owens

This past week has been stressful for the black community, as a video of George Floyd being murdered by a police officer was brought to light. Since then, many celebrities, including Makeup Artists (MUA) has been using their platform to speak on the Black Lives Matter movement.

Famous Beauty Guru and Youtuber, James Charles posted on his Instagram story this morning a word of advice for his followers. “If you’re protesting today, stay safe, please wear protective eyewear and clothing, and if you are white, your job is to use your privilege and be a protective shield for black people, not to incite violence! #blacklivesmatter” He used his platform to make a positive impact in the community, no matter if that meant he loses followers.

Kylie Jenner, Owner of Kylie Cosmetics and daughter of Kris and Caitlyn Jenner, spoke out about her feelings. She quoted a Dr. Martin Luther King Jr quote that said “There is a time when silence is betrayal.” Underneath the quote, she captioned about how she can’t personally relate to the pain and fear many black people have, but she does know no one should have to live in fear and no one deserves to die like George Floyd and many others did. She goes on to mention how scared she is of her daughter Stormi who she has by rapper, Travis Scott. Through her message, you can tell she is a concerned mother who only wants a better future for her daughter. To show her support further, she posted of picture of multiple ways to donate to Racial Justice Funds and where to donate to the Los Angeles Action Bail Fund on her Instagram story.

While there are many celebrities who are silent during these times, it is important to remember the ones who are using their voice to make a difference whether they are black or white. We thank you for using your power and influence to help a cause.

History of the Dashiki

By: Angelica Owens

The Dashiki term comes from the Yoruba term Danshiki, which is a loose fitting pullover which originated in West Africa so men could have something comfortable enough to wear in the heat. The Yoruba borrowed the term from the Hausa term, Dan Ciki which means underneath. Many men wore it under large robes.

In 1967, Jason Benning coined the modern term “Dashiki” and started producing Dashiki style shirts, along with Milton Clarke, Howard Davis and William Smith under their brand New Breed Clothing Ltd. Since the late 1960s, the Dashiki has been worn by African Americans to show their black pride.

The print pattern that it mostly comes in is called Angelina. The pattern comes in different colors, with a different meaning behind each one. The Gold pattern means fertility and health. Blue means harmonious living. Green symbolizes life and prosperity. White is purity and spirituality and Red is just the color of blood.

The Importance of Prom

By: Angelica Owens

One of the most important days for a High School Senior is Prom day. The day that not only marks you as an adult ;but is one step closer to ending one chapter in your life and starting another. Prom is a time to celebrate all of your accomplishments throughout those four years. It’s your last hoorah with your friends before you go your seperate ways.

The search for a prom dress for a girl is one of the most stressful times in their life. Often times, they search many stores, try on hundreds of dresses and shoes before finding the perfect fit for this occasion. Once they find the dress and shoes, it’s easier to find jewelry that goes with it and a hairstyle. For a teenage girl, looking flawless and having a perfect prom night means the world to them. This night is just one of the many stories to tell the generations that follow them.

The Personal Stylist To Go To

By: Angelica Owens

If you have trouble picking out outfits for occasions or putting together clothes you already have in your closet, Krystal Hall is the personal stylist you should go to.

She realized she had a purpose her Sophomore year at North Carolina Agricultural and Technical State University in 2018. After needing some extra money, styling her friends for different occasions and people coming to her for fashion advice, she decided to start being a personal stylist for people on campus and the community.

The most rewarding part for her is seeing them in the outfits she picked out for them and loving it! In the future, she desires to become more consistent, get more clients and rebrand in a new state.

Her advice to anyone who wants to start their own business is to just start and not hesitate because you lack something or are afraid to fail. Everything will fall in place once you get started.

To book her to get you looking amazing for an event, you can book on her website http://www.KrysStylez.co or follow her on Instagram to look at her work @TheKrysStylez.

The Trend of the Face Mask

By: Angelica Owens

Throughout this Coronavirus Pandemic, the face mask trend has became popular. It started with Doctors wearing it during surgery and with their patients. Now, everyone is picking up on this trend to stay safe. People have started becoming entrepreneurs and making their own face masks. They have used every fabric you can think of. College masks have been made as well, so if you want to show your love of the school you graduated from, that’s an option too. It is very easy to make a face mask. To find a step by step of the process, you can view it here. Stay safe during these trying times and have fun makng your own face mask.

Flaxseed Oil Risks

By: Angelica Owens

Flaxseeds can either be made into a gel or an oil that have been known to make your hair grow and give it moisture. Even though there are positive reviews, there are still some risks to flaxseed oil. The risks are as followed:

  • Skin sensitivity to tropical oils
  • A decrease in blood pressure
  • An increase in estrogen, which can adversely affect a fetus during pregnancy
  • A possible increased risk of prostate cancer
  • Toxicity of eating unground and unripe seeds
  • Gastrointestinal side effects, such as gas, abdominal gas, cramps, diarrhea, and constipation

Flaxseed can be something that really helps with your hair, but it is important to take precaution with flaxseeds. Take the necessary steps to eliminate the risk factors associated with it.

The Go to Bee Product for your Face

By: Angelica Owens

Bees are good for more than just the environment, their venom is good to reduce the wrinkles on your face. Beenigma is a product made out of mostly Bee Venom that boosts collagen back into your skin. Bee Venom is also great for Anti Aging. It gets rid of wrinkles, tightens your skin and plumps your skin.

Beenigma contains Manuka Honey, which is a high grade kind of honey straight from New Zealand. It contains some powerful nourishment Qualities and is Antibacterial, Anti-inflammatory and Antioxident. This product is like Botox in a jar, but way more afforable and less painful! You no longer have to pay those high prices to get Botox to make you look younger. Beenigma is the solution for you!

This product is the only Bee Venom product on the market right now. It has been clinically demonstrated and has shown really strong results from its customers. To purchase this must-have product for people who would like to get rid of their imperfections on their face, you can buy it https://secure.beenigmacream.com/?cp=13701&KEYWORD=beenigma.

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